LAURA HAYS | Richmond Times-Dispatch |
My husband is a hypnotherapist. This doesn’t mean he can make me do whatever he wants or persuade me to see things his way. Although, when you are married long enough, you realize it sometimes is good to let your spouse think he is persuading you to see things his way. This has nothing to do with hypnosis.
Nor does my husband use an object swinging in front of a person’s eyes to put him or her into a trance. Television shows and stand-up comedy acts always seem to use such gimmicks to get people to do whatever they want. That’s entertainment and not real hypnosis. Rather, my husband is a psychologist, and as a certified hypnotherapist, he uses hypnosis in his practice to help people. I asked to be hypnotized for fun and to see what it was like. It taught me some things.
Hypnosis is a natural state that feels similar to that feeling you get right before you fall asleep at night. When you awaken, you feel relaxed and refreshed. The idea behind hypnosis is that, even when the conscious mind wants to do something, the unconscious mind might not fully accept this change. Through hypnosis, my husband can take me back to my childhood, as the hypnotic state enables you to access your subconscious mind. Through hypnosis your subconscious mind can heal old wounds, resolve deeply rooted issues and eliminate “bad” habits.
Recently, during a hypnotic session, my husband took me back to when I was 4 years old. I could clearly see myself dancing and singing on my family’s front porch to my favorite movie of all time, “The Wizard of Oz.” I knew every line and played every character. My mother, who died 30 years ago, called me for lunch. I could hear her voice once again! What a lovely sound that brought both joy and tears to me. I woke happy and content recalling this joyous time in my life.
Many of us either live in the past or the future, by being haunted by regrets or by always reaching for the next destination and never enjoying the ride itself. I regret many things I should have said to my mother before she died from cancer. I was young, though, and not mature enough to realize the finality of death. Through hypnosis I have been able to go back and relive happy times with her and even times when I did tell her, “I love you.” Perhaps there was nothing left to say before she died. I just forgot or my conscious mind buried it because of the pain of her death.
The power of our minds is incredible. Our subconscious controls our thoughts, anxiety, fears, impulses, depression, cravings and even pain. I recently read that more than 75 percent of people with arthritis and related diseases experienced significant pain relief using hypnosis.
Let’s face it: The inner workings of our brains are the boss of our bodies and run the whole show. Perhaps we should call hypnotherapy brain power or mind control. We can take medication, talk to our best friend, and analyze things from all angles. Possibly, the real solution is just buried in our subconscious minds. I think this is what hypnosis has done for me.
I am many things: a wife, a mother, grandmother, attorney, artist, tennis player and gardener. Through all of these experiences, I have learned different things. Thanks to my husband being a hypnotherapist, I have just learned how powerful my inner mind is. I also can now recall every lyric from the “Wizard of Oz,” too! Learning is a wonderful gift.
Laura Hays is a partner with the law firm of Lynch & Cornett P.C., where she handles a variety of legal matters. She lives with her husband, John, in Ashland, where he offers hypnosis and tennis lessons as a certified hypnotherapist and tennis professional.